DEAR ABBY: My friend "Cindra" has two children. Both are homeschooled and not able to do many things on their own. Cindra and I have very different views and philosophies on raising children. My children are about the same age as her kids. Since her kids were babies, she has allowed her daughter and son to co-sleep with her and her husband.

Cindra's daughter is now 11, and her son is 9. The girl has started puberty, and it seems inappropriate for the kids to still be co-sleeping with their parents at this age. I care for her kids, and I'm concerned about their well-being. Should I confront Cindra about this? Or would I cross the line by doing so? -- ANOTHER MOTHER IN TEXAS

DEAR MOTHER: Parents have the right to raise their children as they see fit, as long as there is no abuse. Now that the daughter is at the point where she's becoming a young woman, she may WANT to have some privacy. I don't see anything to be gained by mentioning this subject to Cindra.

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